When did you last take the time?
Click, swipe and judge straight away is the mantra of our times. We all do it, myself included. Aren't we being conditioned with all the information coming at us from all sides ( Social media, email and just being online ) to be superficial in real life too?
How often do we sum up a person at first glance:
- I don't like the way she looks / dresses / speaks.
- She / he is so arrogant.
- She doesn't greet me, so I am not going to bother with her.
- They have the perfect life because they drive a fancy car / live in a fancy house / spend loads of money.
- They are the perfect couple.
Stop and take the time to listen for more than a minute to your friends, family or acquaintances. And listen, don't just think about what you are going to say once they are done! Everyone likes to talk about themselves, me included. Stop and listen. I promise you that you will be pleasantly surprised.
There will be facets to your friends or family that you didn't know about, because you have never bothered to ask! Let me tell you, that those facets of a person are what makes them fabulous. It shows how they have handled the hard times, it shows how funny they are, it shows how full of character and pep they are...
Those are the golden nuggets everyone has but that are only noticed once you peel off the outer layers. How to peel those layers off?
Well, listen, listen, listen and ask, ask, ask...and don't tell, tell, tell!
Taking a longer second look, is the magic key to unlocking the secret chamber of treasures. Most people have so much inner beauty, strength and wisdom, that if you don't take the time to discover it, it is your loss!